HEALING THE BROKEN HEARTED
God is OFFENDED at those who OFFEND... and greatly warns them.
It is not the hurt, the broken hearted, the abused, the mistreated, that Jesus speaks to here, it is those who OFFEND:
Luke 17:1-2 (KJV)
1 Then said He unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!
2 It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones.
Have you been 'broken hearted' ??? Have you been hurt by the unkind words of another? Are the ones or one who offended you trying to make you look like the evil one? Are you wondering if anyone cares for your hurt?
Jesus does, Jesus is very angry at the OFFENDER, not at you.
David revealed in Psalms 69 how Jesus was going to feel during the week of His crucifixion.
Read here what Jesus was prophesied to be thinking:
Psalm 69:20 (KJV)
20 Reproach hath broken My heart; and I am full of heaviness: and I looked for some to take pity, but there was none; and for comforters, but I found none.
These are the words of Jesus, given long before He said or thought them, to David, a ‘man after God’s own heart.’ David wanted to know and understand the thoughts and feelings of God, and many of his psalms show God’s revelation to him of what God, and Jesus, would be feeling at various times in the future. These words of Jesus at the crucifixion time show a ‘broken heart’ due to the ‘reproach’ that He was suffering from friend and foe.
The words ‘broken heart’ are figurative language. It is not speaking of a literal ‘heart’ that was ‘broken’. The words rather express of one who is suffering deep inside from pain and sorrow over the hurtful deeds of another. One’s life feels shattered, and hence the ‘broken’, one’s love has been rejected, hence the word ‘heart’.
God expresses that He even is broken hearted due to mankind’s behavior and their unfaithfulness to Him. Jesus was brokenhearted when He came to the night of the betrayal, the arrest, trial, crucifixion, and especially from the disciple who denied Him. God understands brokenness due to the sins of others.
Many of the things we need healed from, as we have studied, are due to our own sins. Brokenheartedness is sometimes due only to the sins of another. God was brokenhearted, Jesus was brokenhearted, and neither of them sinned. Yet, the pain of the brokenness is real to them.
When someone is brokenhearted, they feel an inner pain that needs to be healed. The pain is real, though a doctor could never find its scar. The medicines that the world offer, do not heal the broken heart, they dull the mind, they calm the system, but the broken heart, when the medicines wear off, is still there. They need a ‘healing’ only God can give, for a broken heart.
When broken in heart, some relish and cannot stop to think about it. It is constantly upon their minds. Others cannot think of it at all, and refuse to let the memory of the hurt be contemplated. Some must find outlets to express their emotions of the broken heart. Others refuse to feel at all, and hide well their hurts. Some will mourn over the hurts. Some will create ways to cope and distract from the hurt. While some will need encouragement on a constant basis, others will need to create other victims to achieve revenge.
The offenders will try to dictate how the offended is to feel. They injure more in demanding that the victim blame themselves for the broken heart. Jesus stands firmly against that OFFENDER.
Tears are far from uncommon when one is brokenhearted. They flow and should flow, for one is greatly hurt. God sheds tears over those who have forsaken His loving gifts. Jesus wept greatly in Gethsemane at the time Judas was betraying Him for the price of a slave.
Crying is not sinful, it is an emotional release that God has designed for us, and for Himself. Someone once said: ‘if someone you love hurts you, cry a river, then build a bridge, and get over it.’ Crying is often the first step in getting over it.
We cannot stop the offenders, as the opening statement reads. We will have them, but Jesus promises in that opening passage above, to handle that situation. The offended will be comforted by the Lord, not berated and mocked. It is the offender that will face a Lord Who has been offended by the offenders.
Hosea’s writings give an important message for the last days. His name, Hosea, means "salvation, help, deliverance." It is a name that is similar to "Jesus" and "Joshua." He was probably a native of northern Israel. He was a farmer, and referred to a garden, and farm often.
Hosea was a gentle, frank, affectionate, and domestic person. This sensitive prophet could be called the "Jeremiah of the northern tribes." Both Jeremiah (the "weeping prophet") and Hosea had a ministry of great suffering and heartbreak. Jeremiah obviously had great affection for Hosea's writings.
Jeremiah quoted often from Hosea. Perhaps Jeremiah remained unmarried, because of knowing about Hosea's tragic marriage.
The book of Hosea is both a prophecy and a poem. It is beautifully written, and he shows forth the love, that only God could give a person. He has therefore been called the "St. John of the Old Testament." The love he had for his wife was very great, and that made the heartbreak that she caused to be without measure.
During the times of Hosea's prophesying, all classes of society had become demoralized. Even many of the priests had turned into bandits, and rejoiced in sin because it increased their revenue. Family life was horrible. Hosea used the word "whoredom" a total of 16 times. Hosea lived in a time when sin was rampant. So, the message of Hosea is a theology of the heart, not of the head. It is almost a weeping, instead of a prophesying. It begins with a COMPLAINT about the guilt of Israel. Then follows a CONDEMNATION of Israel's punishment. Finally, there is CONSOLATION revealing a final restoration for the sinful nation. God uses the events in Hosea’s marriage to illustrate His heartbreak.
Hosea openly tells of his tragic marriage. The events of his marriage burned two ideas into the soul of Hosea. He learned by the experience of God's loving faithfulness. He also learned firsthand of the thankless unfaithfulness of his nation, Israel. He lived much of his life in heart break though, while getting these lessons.
First God tells Hosea:
"Go take unto thee a wife of whoredoms and children of whoredoms: for the land hath committed great whoredom, departing from the Lord."
Hosea chose Gomer. She was probably a sacred prostitute. Therefore, his chances of a happy marriage were slim. Yet, God knew, God planned, and though it meant heartbreak for Hosea, God knew He would give the grace to help him.
The word "harlot", that is used for Hosea’s wife, is the same word for "holy woman" used when referring to those who were attached to a shrine where prostitution was a part of the religion. Hosea purchased her from one of those places. We would not call a ‘temple prostitute’ to be a ‘holy woman’ but the world of that day, and the world of this day, glorifies women of low morality. They fill the news of tabloids, newsmen sneak pictures of women whose morals are no better than were those of Hosea’s wife.
Hosea truly learned to love Gomer. It was not a mere emotional love, for no infidelity on her part could quench it. He learned that true love always involves pain, and there is no real pain without first having love. It is real love, that makes another's infidelity painful.
Gomer proved faithless to her marriage vows. She became ensnared in orgies of Baal and Asherah. Her sin caused her to be sold as a slave in the market. Hosea bought her back for 15 silverlings and an homer and a half of barley (3:2).
This, in type, is like Israel, who was like a "wife" to God. Israel was unfaithful to God, and also, like Gomer, went into slavery. The time of Israel's slavery was soon to begin. However, as Hosea purchased back Gomer, God would purchase back Israel.
As Hosea was hurt by the unfaithfulness of Gomer, God was hurt by the unfaithfulness of Israel. Hurt, devastated, ashamed, and in grief, God still wanted to forgive and restore relationship to unfaithful Israel.
Gomer bore three children.
Her first was a son, Jezreel (Hebrew = "sown of God").
Her second child was a daughter, Lo-ruhamah (Hebrew = "not pitied").
The last child was a son, Lo-ammi (Hebrew = "not My people").
Jezreel was born in the first year of the marriage. The name of each child was to tell a story of how God felt about the unfaithfulness of Israel. It was also fitting for Hosea's marriage situation.
"And the Lord said unto him, Call his name Jezreel: for yet a little while, and I will avenge the blood of Jezreel upon the house of Jehu, and will cause to cease the kingdom of the house of Israel."
Lo-ruhamah means "no pity." God was announcing to Israel that he would have "no pity" during the judgment of Israel. False prophets, as in Jeremiah's day, prophesied that God would not let Israel , Jerusalem, or the Temple fall. Jeremiah said:"God will not have pity”. Hosea was carrying a similar message to Israel with the name of his daughter.
Lo-Ammi means "not My people." With the sin still continuing when the third child was born, God announces that He will disown the people of Israel. They are so sinful that He must reject them.
After Gomer's infidelity, and return to the sex orgies of the hillside idol worship centers, Hosea went to the slave auction to buy her back. He paid 15 pieces of silver, and almost 16 bushels of barley. This was not a bargain price. It is more value than would be expected to be paid. The 15 shekels of silver was the redemption price of a slave. This showed the redeeming of Gomer from a life of slavery. The barley was 15 3/4 bushels and was worth seven times the value of the 15 shekels of silver. This shows the love of Hosea for Gomer, and God uses it in type to emphasize His love for unfaithful Israel.
Hosea bought Gomer back from slavery. He became her legal owner. But he wanted a marriage, not ownership. His heart broke when she would not stay with him out of love alone. So, he purchased her, and she was dependent then upon him. But this is not what he wanted, so he gave love, not a life of slavery to him.
"it shall be at that day, saith the Lord, that thou shalt call Me ISHI; and shalt call Me no more BAALI."
The name ISHI means "husband." The name BAALI means "master, owner." A husband, whose wife feels like a possession doesn't have a happy marriage. A wife needs to look to her mate, as a husband, not as her owner. God wants the same relationship with us. He wants us to be in union with Him out of a love covenant. He does not want us to feel we have to serve Him, simply because He owns us.
Israel was married to God at Sinai. The Mosaic covenant was a marriage contract. During the centuries that followed, the nation of Israel committed spiritual adultery. During Jeroboam's reign, Baal worship was encouraged among the northern ten tribes. God literally divorced Israel.
"for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery, I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorcement."
Hosea finally divorced Gomer, due to her continued unfaithfulness, as God would soon divorce Israel.
"Plead with your mother, plead, for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband."
God divorced Israel for her unfaithfulness, as did Hosea to Gomer. There must have been some time that Gomer was away from Hosea and the family. Gomer even had other children while divorced from Hosea. This must have caused much emotional agony for Hosea. The wife he had so loved, stayed away from him for a long time.
"And I will not have mercy upon her children; for they be the children of whoredoms."
Even though he was divorced from Gomer, and she lingered in her rebellious state, Hosea still spent much time and money providing for her during that time.
"For she did not know that I gave her corn, and wine, and oil, and multiplied her silver and gold."
In the same way, God still cares and provides blessings for Israel. Israel is still in her rebellion. Yet, God has given her back her land. He is still giving many blessings for rebellious Israel.
As Hosea later purchased Gomer back from the slave owners, God sent Jesus to pay the price for sin. He paid a high price for the opportunity to re-purchase His rebellious people.
"Therefore, behold, I will allure her, and bring her into the wilderness, and speak comfortably unto her."
This is a prophetic reference to the bringing of Israel to the ancient city of Petra in the wilderness below the Dead Sea. There God plans to court wayward Israel. He wants to restore the relationship that He wanted originally. Yet, it is also a description of what Hosea did regarding Gomer.
He lovingly attempted to lure her back to marriage with him. God will lovingly attempt to lure Israel back to a choice of relationship with Him.
Notice in Hosea 2:1, God uses the names "Ammi" and "Ruhamah". He purposely leaves off the "Lo" that is the prefix of the names. This changes the meaning. The "Lo" is the negative, so without it the names mean "My people" and "I will have pity". The disowning of Israel, and the lack of pity shown for them when they were taken into slavery and persecuted, is only temporary. God still intends to restore. Now, they are "not His people" (Lo-Ammi), and they are "not pitied" (Lo- Ruhamah). But later, God will have pity, and He will claim them as His own. This will occur during the tribulation period, and Israel will accept Jesus as the Messiah.
"I will sow her unto Me in the earth... I will say to them which were not My people, Thou are My people, and they shall say, Thou art my God!"
So, God's plan is to "sow" Israel in the earth as a vineyard and let her bear fruit. Then when He has mercy on Israel, God will reap a great harvest. He will claim them as His own. As Hosea had to divorce Gomer, and as God had to divorce Israel, God sometimes still has to divorce people today. Have you been unfaithful to your God? Have you sold yourself back into the slavery of sin? His desire is to forgive and restore. He has watched over you, as
Hosea did for Gomer, while you have been in rebellion. He has been a loving God, and He is longing to restore you back to Himself. Have you come to the place yet, where you will cry out for Him to restore you?
GOD KNOWS HOW TO HEAL THE BROKEN HEART.
Since God knows first hand what it feels like to have a broken heart, He can also know the steps of healing. Not all who broke God’s heart will ever return to Him, so healing is not dependent upon restoration of the hurting relationship. God wants to work on the heart of the one who is broken and hurting. He can heal that heart, no matter what the perpetrator ever does.
Someone once said, ‘God can heal a broken heart, but He needs all the pieces’. The brokenhearted need to come to Jesus, and lay out all the ‘hurting and shattered pieces’ of their lives, and let God begin to put things back together. Many times, if not most always, restoration of a relationship is not found, for God will not overrule the stubborn will of sinners, who arrogantly hurt Him, or His children. Allowing that relationship that brought so much hurt to go, is not symbolic of ‘weakness’, but it takes a holy strength to let go, and let God heal in another way.
God is close with those that have broken hearts, for He knows their agony and pain. When Jesus asked ‘who do men say that I am’, one of the answers was ‘Jeremiah’, for Jeremiah was the ‘weeping prophet’. Jesus likewise was a ‘weeper’, feeling the pain of the rejection of many, the coming pain of the cross and its perpetrators. God knows what ‘brokenhearted’ means, and has been ‘touched with the feelings of our infirmities.’
Hebrews 4:15-16 (KJV)
For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
Therefore, the brokenhearted can find help from the Lord when they turn to Him.
Psalm 34:18 (KJV)
The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.
The Lord is ‘nigh’ to the broken of heart. He does save those who come with a humble and contrite heart to Him for such healing.
Psalm 147:3 (KJV)
He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.
Jeremiah came to God for healing, for other prophets were speaking harshly to him, and condemning him. He felt pain from that rejection, but kept faithful to speak the words that God gave him. It was heartbreaking to have all the people wanting him to cease. But he called out to God in humility and God was there to comfort him.
Jeremiah 23:9 (KJV)
Mine heart within me is broken because of the prophets; all my bones shake; I am like a drunken man, and like a man whom wine hath overcome, because of the LORD, and because of the words of his holiness.
Hosea had to continue to speak God’s words too. He had an illustrated lesson in his own life of what God was feeling due to Israel’s unfaithfulness. He felt some of what God felt, and could preach his message to the people of what God felt, due to his illustrated lesson with Gomer.
In the last days, soon, many angels will harmoniously sound the "shofars" of the Lord, and many of the remaining un-gathered Jewish people will gather. The soundings that we have spiritually heard and physically observed in these last years, is only the beginning. A great re-gathering is soon to occur.
"And it shall come to pass in that day that the great trumpet shall be blown, and they shall come which were ready to perish in the land of Assyria, and the outcasts of Egypt, and shall worship the Lord in the holy mountain at Jerusalem."
This speaks of a final re-gathering when the main purpose of the re-gathering is to worship at the temple site in Jerusalem. This has not yet occurred. The people now return to reclaim the land. Soon, they will return to reclaim their God. The physical return will soon take on a spiritual nature.
"Then shall the children of Israel be gathered together."
Hosea spoke of a time after "many days" wherein the people would "return" and "seek the Lord their God." This spiritual re-gathering will heal the broken heart of God for their former rejection of Him.
"For the children of Israel shall abide many days without a king, and without a prince, and without a sacrifice, and without an image, and without an ephod, and without a teraphim. Afterward shall the children of Israel return and seek the Lord their God, and David their king; and shall fear the Lord and His goodness in the latter days."
The people will, at that time, be gathered from many different nations.
"For I will take you from among the heathen, and gather you out of all countries, and will bring you to your own land."
"For thus saith the Lord God, Behold, I, even I, will both search My sheep, and seek them out. As a shepherd seeketh out his flock in that day that he is among his sheep that are scattered; so will I seek out My sheep, and will deliver them out of all places where they have been scattered in the cloudy and dark day. And I will bring them out from the people and gather them from the countries, and will bring them to their own land, and feed them upon the mountains of Israel by the rivers, and in all the inhabited places of the country. I will feed them in a good pasture, and upon the high mountains of Israel shall their fold be."
"Behold, I will gather them out of all countries, whither I have driven them in Mine anger, and in My fury, and in great wrath; and I will bring them again unto this place, and I will cause them to dwell safely. And they shall be My people, and I shall be their God."
Restoration is God's main purpose in His re-gathering call. His protective care will again envelop Israel. He longs to cease the angry scattering that He has done over many centuries.
Hosea prophesied much about this re-gathering. He emphasizes that facts that their will be a great number gathered, and God will reclaim them as His people.
Jesus was rejected, crucified, resurrected, and then ascended to heaven. Now we are seeing the beginning of the regathering of the nation of Israel. The purpose of God in this is to bring them again to the land of Israel, then afflict them with the plagues of the tribulation, until they repent of their rejection of the true Messiah, and accept Jesus. Soon, the affliction will grow immense.
FORGIVENESS IS OFFERED TO THE HEARTBREAKERS,
A NEW HEALING RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS OFFERED TO THE HEARTBROKEN.
God wants to forgive them for their rejection of Jesus. He has offered forgiveness even in Hosea's day.
"O Israel, return unto Jehovah thy God; for thou hast fallen by thine iniquity. Take with you words, and return unto Jehovah: say unto Jehovah, 'Take away all iniquity!'...I will heal their backsliding, I will love them freely: for Mine anger is turned away from him."
Hosea is a prophet of grace. He comes at a time before the dispersion of Israel or Judah. Yet, he offers the restoration from dispersion and iniquity. He is a prophet who came before the judgment to offer the remedy to the last generation of the judgment.
"Who is wise that he many understand these things? prudent that he may know them? for the ways of Jehovah are right, and the just shall walk in them; but transgressors shall fall therein."
Not all, in fact few, of the ‘heartbreaking’ relationships will be restored, but a ‘remnant’ will return. Many have broken from God, hurt Him greatly, and will never return. God will see some of the many who rejected Him, come to Him. The restoration time is now beginning.
Hosea emphasized the mercy and love of a God Who would soon judge Israel. God foreknew His soon coming judgment. Yet, He wanted His people to know, that even though judgment would come, the plan and desire of God is to mercifully re-gather those who are judged, and restore them unto Himself.
God can restore some relationships that brought heartbreak to one or both, but it does not always happen. For those that do not have restoration, He offers a different kind of healing. He offers ‘hope’, and a better future. We are told to ‘comfort’ each other with words of hope of heaven, of God’s eternal, faithful love to us.
HEALING THE BROKEN HEART
Whereas, we once were brokenhearted in a damaging situation with humans, we now have a divine relationship with a God Who loves us tenderly and completely.
Hebrews 4:15-16 (KJV)
15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.
16 Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
God understands, has felt the same kind of pain as the brokenhearted. He has an answer, He knows how to heal.
Hebrews 7:25 (KJV)
25 Wherefore He is able also to save them to the uttermost that come unto God by him, seeing He ever liveth to make intercession for them.
God asks of the brokenhearted, to have ‘faith’ in Him. The brokenhearted need to realize that He will ‘reward’ those who come to Him for their healing.
Hebrews 11:6 (KJV)
6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
There is no need for loneliness, for being in the presence of the Lord makes a difference in the life of the seeker.
Acts 4:13 (KJV)
13 Now when they saw the boldness of Peter and John, and perceived that they were unlearned and ignorant men, they marvelled; and they took knowledge of them, that they had been with Jesus.
God has riches of His glory, ready and prepared to give to the brokenhearted.
Romans 9:23 (KJV)
23 And that He might make known the riches of His glory on the vessels of mercy, which He had afore prepared unto glory,
Therefore, the brokenhearted should draw near to God. We can have ‘full assurance’ that He will wash us with ‘pure water’. Hold fast to this healing of your broken heart.
Hebrews 10:22-25 (KJV)
22 Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed pure water.
23 Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for He is faithful that promised;)
24 And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
We can pray for the ‘mountain’ size problem to be healed, and the Lord does answer.
Mark 11:22-24 (KJV)
22 And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.
23 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.
24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.