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Genesis 1:27 (KJV)
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Matthew 19:4 (KJV)
And He (Jesus) answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female,

Mark 10:6 (KJV)
But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.

There are two genders, male and female. There are not hundreds of genders. Science proves two, and only in distorted, damaged minds can mankind seem to create the many that political correctness wants to assert.

Men and women are different, and God ordained that fact. There are exceptions to the differences between them, for we are all individuals, but that does not mean we are multiplying the two genders that the Trinity created. 

Sexism is not the noticing of the differences between men and women.  Sexism is treating one of the two genders in a biased or prejudiced way, rather than on personal traits or abilities. Sexism has been around for millennia, and it is only of recent times that substantial changes have allowed women to vote, to participate more freely out of the home in the workplace. Sexism still has a long way to go to allow it to truly overcome.

Sexism can be subtle since a defining of it varies, and is seldom noticed in some forms. Sometimes the ‘assertiveness’ of a man is called ‘aggression’ in a woman. A man may be called ‘flexible’, but a woman is referred to as ‘fickle’. A woman may be ‘sensitive’ and the same trait in a man is called ‘wimpish’. Subtle sexism calls the ‘politeness’ of a woman to be ‘patronizing’ in a man.   

A young girl that chooses to be a ‘tomboy’ and enjoy sports not previously deemed ‘feminine sports’, does not create a new gender, nor indicate she is less female than any other young girl who chooses sports previously deemed uniquely different than others of their own gender, and society may try to dictate what is feminine, what is masculine, but God has made us unique, and age defined norms vary greatly. Jesus wore a skirt, women in that age wore pants. Men in that time wore colorful clothing, women wore drab colors. The norms of any age are not indicative of the gender.

We must allow each of the two genders to be individuals, and not try to define characteristics as indicative of gender warping. God would have made us all one gender if He did not have plans and reasons for there being two genders.  Let’s notice the nature of the differences, and see what God was planning for the fact of there being two genders.

Some stereotype woman to be not committed to their jobs due to some home responsibilities of raising a family. Some stereotype men as totally sexist if they rely on their marriage partner for some home duties.  Men are not feminine if they like to cook the meals, do some laundry, or spend some time grooming their looks.

As Christians, we must avoid sexism and judging of either gender choosing uncharacteristic roles, vocation choices, or pursuits of studies.  God Who created two genders, also chose to not see us as ‘male nor female’ but to value each gender equally loved and valued.  We should do the same.

Ephesians 6:9 (KJV)
And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.

Galatians 2:6 (KJV)
But of these who seemed to be somewhat, (whatsoever they were, it maketh no matter to me: God accepteth no man's person).

1 Peter 1:17 (KJV)
And if ye call on the Father, who without respect of persons judgeth according to every man's work, pass the time of your sojourning here in fear:

Romans 2:11 (KJV)
For there is no respect of persons with God.

Acts 10:34 (KJV)
Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons:

Galatians 3:28 (KJV)
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

We should allow others to express their identities as male or female in their own unique ways. We should be just and loving to all.  We must deal with others in an impartial way.

Luke 20:21 (KJV)
And they asked him, saying, Master, we know that thou sayest and teachest rightly, neither acceptest thou the person of any, but teachest the way of God truly:

Jesus practiced love and justice, He did not change His views on God’s created norms due to political correctness, but rather than argue the differences, He concentrated on salvation of the souls within each person.
Our calling is not to attack a twisted, ungodly, un-Scriptural to teach them God’s ways. Compassion is our guide. We choose salvation of the soul to replace the arguing of political correctness. The corruption of God’s truths in today’s defiant rejection world needs subjugated to our primary mission  

Jesus showed in the parable of the good Samaritan that the beliefs of the man robbed and beaten, the variance of that with the Samaritan, did not come into discussion. The Samaritan cared for the great need, provided for his primary needs. The salvation of souls is the primary need in these last days before the rapture of the church, and the coming judgment of God on the sinful world.

Levites and priests passed by the man and his current crisis, and Jesus answered the question of ‘who was this man’s neighbor’ with affirming that it was the one ‘who had mercy’ and told us to ‘go and do likewise’.

Regardless of one’s gender and gender beliefs, we are commanded to not only love God with all our heart, but to also ‘love our neighbor.’

The problems of sexism, racism, discrimination, and prejudice are not to be found in Christ-like ones. 

There are often, most often, due to God’s choice to create two separate genders, differences.  With possible and quite acceptable variances, we note male and female are different in personality and in interests.
Consider the differences that God has created in the two genders of mankind:

Men think differently than women think. It is a fact of life. Yet science has proven that men think with one side of the brain at a time, and are therefore, what some call  “mono minded”.  Women think with both sides of their brain at a time, and as some call it ‘stereo minded”.

Women can seemingly change the subject in the middle of a sentence, for they are thinking of more than one thing at a time. Men cannot do this, so when women do it, it drives men crazy. They do not understand why the woman  does not want to discuss the other thing, and they probably do. It is just that the woman can think of both things at once, and men cannot.

Men and women were not made by God to be alike. God sees them as equals,  but does not want them to be carbon copies of the other, but wants them to complement each other. Two hands may equally be part of the body, but one is made with the thumb on the left side, and the other with the thumb on the right. They are not alike, but they are equal.

The many differences between men and women, need to be laughed about, appreciated, and used for the purpose God made the differences. 

Men are competitive, but women are contributive. That is why men love sports with a passion, for they get into the competitiveness of sports. Men want a pecking order, and want to know who is in charge, and want to compete for them to be the one. That is why the ‘remote control’ to the television  is usually found in the man’s hand. He wants to control the television, he is afraid he will watch the second best thing on tonight, so he has to race through the channels to see all that is on, and then back again to decide what is the best thing.

Men are usually better at chess. For they see it as a battle. Women are often shy to take a chess piece, for they do not want to make their opponent upset. So concentrating on how to be contributive to the relationship, they miss the competitive drive that makes men take that queen, and every pawn even they can. The women that I have seen good at chess, are those who learn to use that competitive drive against men, and challenge them slyly that the man cannot get their queen, and as the man chases the queen around the board, the woman then sneaks up and checkmates his king. Yet,  that is a game.  The competitive nature of a man has often been his downfall in the relationships. 

The man sees a vacation trip in a competitive manner also. To him it is something to conquer. He has so many miles to make a day, that is the challenge. Can he do it? Rest room breaks, stops to view the yard sale, are like unnecessary pit stops to the man.

The woman sees the trip as a thing that will contribute to the relationship.
She views and discusses the scenery, thinks of places the two of them can stop and enjoy, and all of that is like having a flat tire to the man, who often become irritable. The woman, not understanding the competitive drive of the man, thinks their relationship is in trouble, for he does not want to enjoy anything with her.

Women are relationship creatures, and want a relationship to develop into a calm relaxing, chummy, quiet, but serene relationship. As she has always wanted for after the marriage, but the man, who is competitive, want a commitment, wants to get the wedding over with, as a halfback wants to cross the goal line before being tackled.

I heard about a woman who was asked by her husband: ”Why do you cry over some dog on televison that dies, and is not even real... it is so silly.” The woman answered him: “Why do you yell and scream for a man you do not know, who is carrying a bunch of air wrapped in pigskin over a line?”
The reason is that men are competitive, and respond to those things.

Women are contributive,  and relational creatures. Women fall in love and forget themselves. Men fall in love and concentrate on themselves. Men pull back, when pushed for relationship, women pull back when men see the relationship as a game to be won. Women, who see the man pull back, want to pursue him, but if they would back off, and let the man see it as a competitive challenge  to understand her need for ‘relationship’,  then he would be back in a micro-second.

Men need to realize that women are not the competition, and women need to recognize that men are so competitive  that the thing suggested to man to do, will seldom be done. LOL.

So women, let the man win. Tell him and assure him that he has won your heart, and the game is all his, but now you want to celebrate his victory,
and build the relationship that you want, (but do not emphasize the part that it is something you want.

Men and women both assume that the other feels and thinks just as they do and that leads to misunderstandings,  and confusion on both parts. Take the beam out of your own eye, before working on the splinter in the other’s eye.
Women, realize that men see relationship  as something they will have as soon as the current game is won.  Men,  stop trying to score touchdowns by getting her to admit  you are right about this or that, all the time.

Sit down and make a list. What would you change about yourself, to help your mate achieve his/her goal and nature. Then make a list, what would I want the other one to do to make me feel better about the contest, the relationship.  After making such a list, after due personal consideration of what to rewrite, or erase,  then sit down and go over each other’s lists.

Then remember,  men are visual, women are verbal.  Women react with words, and women do not realize how easily a man is hurt with the words.
Just as a woman is hurt,  if she spies her man gazing with an appreciative look at a pretty woman passing by, so a man is hurt by any words that indicate he is losing the game for which he is competitively working to win.

The words cut like a sword and hurt the man. The woman being so verbal,

does not see words as that important, and does not understand what he is all upset about,  no more than the man understands  why she is so upset that he said hi and smiled at the pretty waitress,  just to see if she smiled back, so he could chalk that up as another touchdown in his competitive nature.

Man are moment oriented, women are future oriented.  Men can only think of now, women can usually only be concerned about future.  That is why men carry a wallet, with what he needs now, and women have purses
with everything in them that they will need for the next year,  medicine, enough band aids to get her though the next war, keys to things she has not opened in years, and every credit card to every store in the mall, etc. etc.

The man wants a commitment now.  The woman first wants to think all things through,  and to be sure she has it all figured out, down to the names of the first six children, where they will live, and what he wants for dinner on Christmas. The man only cares that she agrees with the ring on her finger,  and has a hamburger ready now.

Women, realize that  men are competitive. Do not try to compete. Do not try to get him to daily admit you won. Do not tell him how to hammer that nail right. Men, realize that a relationship is not a competition, and let her get to know you, and ask her questions about herself,  and why she thinks this or than, and remember that a successful marriage needs 12 or more non-sexual touches a day,  to confirm to a woman that your relationship is real. 

Women, do not tell your husband to take out the garbage, he will see it as a defeat.  Tell him that you will take it out if he is too tired,  and you are strong enough to do it when he is too weak,  and then watch him compete to beat you to the garbage. For he cannot look like he has been whipped.

Opposites do attract, and men and women are opposite in many ways. Night people marry day people,  athletes marry artists, vegetarians marry steak lovers,  prophets who speak whatever the Lord says to say, marry women who want to think all the future consequences of saying this or that out first.

Some one said there were three stages to a relationship:
1. honeymoon stage.
Everything seems so wonderful and no problem can ever come between us time.
2. party is over stage.
everything seems so bleak, and this problem is a whopper.
3. let’s make a deal stage.
when everything to keep going on, means that both must make some adjustments, and learn to give, not just demand.

There are several ways to resolve some things:
1. my way
2. your way
3. .half your way, half my way...
4. our way...

Until you are ready to define ‘our way’,  and forgive each others’ ‘my way’, the relationship needs work.

Men, can you win this one? Can you compete to get this settled somewhere between the ‘now’ you want, and the ‘future’ she wants. Can you see the relationship  without seeing it as a football game, and see the game as won, and now begins the celebration relationship party that should last a lifetime?
Women, can you understand that you need to reassure him that the game is won, he won, you are his for life, and now begin the celebration time.

Women, do not be surprised if the man, forgets from time to time, that he is not a total failure if he does not have the remote control in his hand.
There are two genders, created by an omniscient Trinity, Who knew what and why they were doing so.  It is God’s plan, God’s design, and we need to enjoy His wisdom.

Male or female, we are all the ‘offspring of God’:
 Acts 17:29
"...we are the offspring of God."

Sin disrupted the family of God, and distorted the image of God, into which we were created.  Many are now the children of the devil.  Where once people were in the likeness and moral resemblance of God, sin has corrupted the nature that God had given. The innocence and purity that once made Adam able to walk daily with God, has been broken and destroyed by sin.

People still have a three-fold constitution.  We are all body, soul, and spirit.  The body is our  world-consciousness,  the soul is our self-consciousness, and the spirit is our God-consciousness.

I Thessalonians 5:23
"And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God  your whole spirit, soul, and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ."

The real person is the spirit. The body is the temporary tent (or tabernacle) in which our spirit is dwelling. At death, the real you departs the body and returns to the Lord. There it will be sent to the joys of heaven, or to the suffering of hell-fire. The inward man is the real person.

II Corinthians 4:16
"...but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day."

With your body, you live in the physical realm.  With your soul, you contact the intellectual realm.  With the spirit, you are in contact with the spiritual realm.  People are meant to be spirit-beings.  They are temporarily bound to a physical body that is mortal, carnal, and prone to sin.  We need to try to get our spirit person back into control.  When our spirit rules our being, we are guided into harmony and relationship with God.

Romans 8:14
"For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God."
God's Spirit will direct us through our spirit. The Holy Spirit does not guide us by physical restraint of our bodies. He does not make us follow by soul-restraint, i.e. - by making it natural to do what is right. This spirit is the part of us, that still has the God-like nature. God preserves it to maintain His image. Mankind may starve it to death, and make it inoperable, but God can give it new life, in what we call the "new birth", and is often called "being born-again." We are to be led by the Spirit of God by allowing our spirit to follow His guidance.

When Adam and Eve were first created, there was a bond between their spirits and the Spirit of God. That bond made it easy to live righteously. 

They could commune with God, and be in His presence. When sin broke that union between their spirits and God, they immediately suffered spiritual death (separation of man's spirit from God's Spirit), they became subject to physical death,  their conscience was defiled, and they were banished from God's presence.

Some refer to this terrible state as  total depravity. However, this terminology is somewhat confusing and misleading. Man did become void of any righteousness with which to impress God, but there is still something good even in the worst of people. It is the spirit, that still wants God. The fleshly body and the soul will look to many substitutes for God. The spirit still reaches out and searches for God. Man's spirit is not satisfied with anything short of the union with God's Spirit that it was designed to have. 

That is why people are so miserable in their sins, and in every substitute for God that they try. Instead of total depravity, I would rather call people's sinful state to be total inability. People are totally unable to do anything  to save themselves from the wages of sin. People are totally unable to redeem themselves. The union with God is broken, and there is no list of good works that serves as a way for people to atone for their own sinful state. 

Mankind has a tendency to bend toward evil. It is easy to sin. The flesh and the soul are easily drawn into the vilest of sins. Paul spoke of this "bent toward sin":
Romans 7:24
"When I would do good, evil was present with me."

Sinners cannot do any act, or acts, that will bring God's approval.  Only Christ provides the answer. The key to redeeming the past sins is through the redemptive work of Jesus Christ. The sinner is bankrupt, and only Christ can come with the payment for sins' debt. God provides through Jesus, the forgiveness and discharge of debt for sin. The total inability of people to atone for their sins is met by the loving work of Jesus on the cross. He did for us what none of us could do.

God did not abandon people when they sinned, even though sin has polluted all of us:
I Kings 8:46
"there is no man that sinneth not."
Psalms 143:2
“...in Thy sight no man living is righteous."
Proverbs 20:9
"Who can say, I have made my heart clean, I am pure from sin."
Ecclesiastes 7:20
"surely there is not a righteous man upon earth, that doeth good and sinneth not."
Romans 3:10-12,23
"there is none righteous, no not one... there is none that doeth good, no not so much as one...for all have sinned and come short of the glory of God."
John 1:8
"if we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us."

God made mankind. He created Adam and Eve to have a fellowship with Him.  Adam was at first alone in the garden, and God saw that Adam needed companionship to satisfy his created instincts.

Genesis 2:18
"It is not good that the  man should be alone, I will make an help meet for him."

God wanted fellowship Himself, and therefore could discern the same need in Adam. The need of fellowship with our Creator, and with other human beings, is a God-inspired trait.  We need, as the Adamic race, to seek the restoration of fellowship with God, that sin broke.  God has provided ONE, and only ONE, way, That is JESUS CHRIST.

The whole of the Bible is primarily a revelation of Jesus Christ:
John 5:39
"Search the Scriptures... they are they which testify of Me."
Our vital need is to accept the free gift of salvation. We need to accept Jesus as Savior, repent of our sins that estranged us from Him, and find the peace of His salvation.
John 12:46
"I am come a light into the world, that whosoever believeth in Me, should not abide in darkness."

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